Teddy Burriss on Show #37: Why Self-Reflection is Important

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As a LinkedIn coach, trainer, public speaker, and the founder of Burriss Consulting Inc., Teddy Burriss shares his knowledge about how to use LinkedIn in a way to create value for people and their business. He likes to work in coffee shops and public places and does a lot of one-on-one coaching. He enjoys helping others in their business and transition their careers. In his continual desire to learn and improve, Teddy joined some groups such as Triad Coaching Connection and Association of Talent Development that aim to teach, inspire, and engage others.

Today, Teddy talks about the ways that keep him focused and productive despite the distractions around him. He shares the non-negotiables regarding his daily routine and task management and points out some important life principles he lives by so that he can track the big things and have the energy and the power to really live with more each passing day.

This Week on the POWER to Live More Podcast:

  • Why Teddy likes to work in public places
  • How he determines his workplace for the day
  • His intentional morning routine
  • Closing his day with organisation, reflection, and celebration of relationship
  • Managing and keeping track of his tasks
  • How Google Suite helps him connect and be more productive
  • Activities to relax and stay healthy
  • Humble principle when it comes to learning and self-improvement
  • Must-read life-changing books
  • His principles for dealing with bad times
  • Difference between reacting and responding
  • The 50-50 Business Teddy and his wife founded and its goals
  • Visualising a good day through a big hairy audacious goal

Questions Teddy Asks When Dealing with A Bad Day:

  1. What can I do to make it better?
  2. What can I do to change it?
  3. What can I do to never do it again?

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Jo Dodds: Today, I'm interviewing Teddy Burriss, of Burriss Consulting Inc., which might give you a bit of a clue, as to where Teddy is. So, hi, Teddy. Thanks for joining me.
Teddy Burriss: Good morning, Jo. Thank you, very much, for inviting me in, today.
Jo Dodds: Really looking forward to speaking to you. So, let's start by you telling us where you are in the world.
Teddy Burriss: So, I am in a community, in North Carolina, called Greensboro, Jo. It's ... Oh, I'm not sure how big. It's a good size community. Maybe, that'd be, 80,000 people. It's pretty active in finance, and marketing. Got a baseball team right downtown. I'm in Greensboro, North Carolina.
Jo Dodds: Lovely. So, tell us what you do in Greensboro, North Carolina.
Teddy Burriss: My business, Jo ... I tell people that I am a LinkedIn coach, trainer, public speaker. What my purpose is, is to help individuals, primarily in business, but also in career transition, learn how to use LinkedIn in a meaningful way, to create real value for them, and-or, their business.
Jo Dodds: Lovely. I, occasionally, do a bit of LinkedIn training. I was trying to run a webinar, yesterday. I'm sure you will be aware that LinkedIn wasn't working.
Teddy Burriss: Yeah, I saw that. I saw some tweets about that.
Jo Dodds: Very frustrating. Tell us where you do your work. Do you work from home? Do you have an office?
Teddy Burriss: That's a great question, Jo. I'm a little different than most people. At least, I think I am. I do have a home office. My wife has an office in our home, as well. It's a different room. She gets some distance from me, when she wants it. I don't have a brick and mortar office. I work predominately from coffee shops, cafes, public spaces. I share some office space with some other business professionals, in another town, in North Carolina, where I work. I do a lot of work from my clients' offices. In some cases, from the home. I do a lot of one-on-one coaching. Bottom line, Jo, I can do my work, pretty much, anywhere in the world.
Jo Dodds: Lovely. I was on a radio show today, and we were talking about focus. I was talking about the ... I don't know if you've used it. Focus at Will, where you can play music, and various types of music, whilst you're working. Actually, one of the options on there is coffee shop sounds. Have you ever used anything like that, when you haven't been in a coffee shop?
Teddy Burriss: Well, I just wrote down, "Teddy, look for Focus at Will app, so that I can go check that out," because, I do like working in public spaces. I like the people, of the motion, of the aromas of good food, and good drink. I will look for that app you were talking about.
Jo Dodds: Yeah. It's interesting. I was saying to ... Everyone was giving me, sort of, incredulous looks. "What do you mean, coffee shop noises?" I was saying that, there are people like you, who like that environment. It's not something that I feel I need, however, I do find, when I am in public places, working, I am so able to focus. I don't know. What do you think it is? Is it just because you're not talking to everybody, but you can hear conversations going on? But, you're in, sort of, your own little cocoon? That's how it feels, to me, sometimes. What helps you, when you're in that situation, to work?
Teddy Burriss: I can relate to that. Because, if I have a task to do, if I know I need to write this blog post, or finish editing this, or finish editing an article, or whatever it is that I'm working on, when I'm buy myself, I can stay focused to what I wanna do, and even still, hear the chatter, or the chirp, behind me. Normally, when I'm focused on my task, I don't look up a lot. I don't look up to see who's there, or what that is. I just keep staying true to my task. It's a challenge, but if you want that environment, you have to be able to manage the challenge.
Jo Dodds: Yes, yeah. That's true. Tell us a bit about how your day runs. Do you have a, sort of, set up to the day? How do you decide which coffee shop to go to, and how does your day then run?
Teddy Burriss: Where I end up, depends on where my meetings are for the day. Today, I had a ten o'clock ... Actually, an eight-thirty appointment in Greensboro. I decided that I was gonna come to the coffee shop in Greensboro, called The Green Bean. Someone that had to tell you, "I wanna meet with you Tuesday morning." I said, "Meet me at The Green Bean, 'cause that's where I'm gonna be." Where I go is, generally, depended on where my big task is for the day. My normal day, for me, is [inaudible 00:05:13]. Which means, my day is depended upon what my clients want, what my coaching sessions, where my webinars or seminars are.
However, Jo, I do strive, in the mornings, when I get up, to do three things, pretty deliberately. Number one, drink 20 ounces of water, immediately when I get up. I really try to do that every morning. Haven't found the real healthy value behind that, but it feels good to hydrate myself, first thing in the morning. Number two is, on Monday, Wednesdays, and Fridays, I try to spend an hour, an hour and 20 minutes, in my workout room, in my home, where I have a treadmill, three weights, a weight bench.
I try to do my stretches, a little bit of yoga, my three weights. Do 30 minutes on the treadmill, and do 10 or 15 minutes on the bench. If my goal, Jo, is very deliberate, I'm not trying to lose weight. Even though, I know that would be beneficial. What I am trying to do, Jo, is as a 58-year-old, moving into that second half of my life, I'm trying to stay nimble, and flexible.
Jo Dodds: Yep.
Teddy Burriss: And, the third thing I do is, if I'm not working out in the mornings, then I try to stop, and write 200 words, as the second step of the morning.
Jo Dodds: So, is that the days when you're not ... So, that's Tuesdays and Thursdays, you write, instead of exercise?
Teddy Burriss: Yeah, and maybe Saturdays. Sometimes, on Saturday morning, I'll get up, [inaudible 00:07:01] and then, I don't have an errand to run. I'll try to write 200 words.
Jo Dodds: And, does it matter what those 200 words are?
Teddy Burriss: No. I'm not a content calendar guy. I don't live by content calendars. What I do is, I live by what I hear. I write, based on what I hear, and speak. If I hear an interesting phrase, or I hear a new word that makes me think, then what I'll say to myself, sometimes quietly, sometimes out loud, "Oh my God. I got the blog post." Then, I'll write that down on my list, and then, that'll be the next thing I write about.
Jo Dodds: Right. Yep. Does that cover off your writing? Or, do you then have to do ... Sort of, makes times, do that separately? Or, does that work? The amount of time you do give to it?
Teddy Burriss: I need to write a whole lot more of that, because I manage two blog posts. I manage a blog post at Burriss Consulting dot com (burrissconsulting.com/). It's about social media. Predominately, about LinkedIn. I also manage another blog, called NCWiseman, for North Carolina Wise Man dot com (ncwiseman.com). That's for career transition, which is a part of my giveback, part of my business. I have to come up with articles for that.
I also have another blog. It's TL Burriss, double R, I, double S. It's my personal blog. I've been ignoring that, lately. I need to get back to it. But, they're just stories from Teddy. They can be emotional, motivational, satirical, you know, self-deprecating. There's all kinds of different articles I write, there, with the intent being, there's really no story about Teddy, that when I die, anybody can hear.
Jo Dodds: Right.
Teddy Burriss: To answer your question, my 200 words in the morning is just exercise, more than anything. But, I have to deliberately stop, and write other content, all week long.
Jo Dodds: Mm-hmm (affirmative). What about, sort of, the end of the day? Obviously, you've got different office spaces. As we've said, your home, and you're out and about, and in other peoples' houses, as well. Do you have a, sort of, typical end of the day, to sort of close down work, and get into the evening?
Teddy Burriss: I do. It includes a couple different things that I try to do. Number one is, look back at what I did today, and ask myself this question. "Did what I did ... " I'm trying to think of the right way to say it. "Is the work that I did today beneficial of moving me forward in my business?" Try to ask my question. This is not a hard stop. You know, everybody be quiet, while I do self-reflection, or introspective look. It's, really more very, again, [inaudible 00:10:01]. I go, "Did the work I do today ... Was it beneficial of moving me?" I celebrate by, maybe, going to get a beer. If it's not, then I will tell myself, "If that wasn't helpful, then maybe, I don't need to do that again." Whatever that was.
Jo Dodds: Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Teddy Burriss: Sort of like, a quick little self-reflection thing.
Jo Dodds: Yeah.
Teddy Burriss: There's two other things that I do, as well. Because of my lifestyle, I try to get home every evening to have dinner with my wife.
Jo Dodds: That's nice.
Teddy Burriss: Jo, I live a unique life. My wife lets me leave out every morning, do lots of things, engage lots of people, grow our business, based on what I'm doing, and with no barriers. Really, no barriers. My wife just says, "Go have fun, and do it. I know we'll get there." When we created this business, I told myself, "With the freedom that I have, I need to celebrate the relationship with my wife, as often as I can." So, I wanna get home every night, when I can. There's times I don't.
Jo Dodds: Yeah. Yeah. I like that. I like that entire principle. You can caught up in lots of stuff, can't you, outside of the home, and not necessarily make that time? There's a second thing, there's a third thing. You're a man of three, as I can tell.
Teddy Burriss: My inner reflection, be with my wife, and then, the other thing I need to do. I often sit back, after dinner. I'm on my laptop, and I'm looking at what do I need to do tomorrow, make sure I got myself organised, know that I have my content. If I'm doing a public speech with my ... I'm a Prezi guy. Is my Prezi done, is it ready? Sometimes, I'll drive around, and practise it, and-or, look at the content I have to have available for my next seminar, make sure that's available, clean up all my emails. I do not like going to bed with any unread emails. I like to have my desk cleared. My desk is really my laptop. I just clean up my day, and make sure I'm prepared for tomorrow.
Jo Dodds: Lovely. That leads quite nicely into asking, how you manage your to do list. How you make sure you get the right things done during the day. You said that you reflect on whether you have moved your business forward, and that you say that you clear the deck, at the end of the day, if you'd like. How do you make sure it all gets done?
Teddy Burriss: Well, I live and I die on my calendar. Jo, if it's not my calendar, it's not happening. If it's on my calendar, I better make sure I do it. So, where I have, Jo, all my public activity, my meetings. This call, with you, was on my calendar. I have a 30 minute alert, and a 10 minute alert. 30 minutes means, "Get your butt going towards that venue." 10 minutes means, "I better be there." If it's something that's really important, that my wife knows I need to do, she sends me a calendar, and I put it on my calendar.
Jo Dodds: Yeah.
Teddy Burriss: So, I live and die by my calendar. That's how I keep track of the things that I need to do. I don't track the minutia, I don't track the little things. I track the big things, so I can make sure they get done. The little things happen as the day goes on.
Jo Dodds: So, do you keep a list of the little stuff, anywhere? Or is it, as you say, just as it comes?
Teddy Burriss: Well, there's some that ... I'm an Evernote guy. I love my Evernote.
Jo Dodds: Yeah.
Teddy Burriss: So, I have a to do folder, in there. Once or twice a day, I'll, maybe, add something to it, or take something, or do something that's in there. Couple times a week, I'll look at it, and make sure there's nothing on there that's critical. Some of that minutia can wait 'till Friday. Some of it can wait until next Monday. I'll just leave it in my to do folder, and Evernote. I also have this, too, that if I have to go to the bank, or go to the grocery store. I'll literally put those things on my calendar, 'cause they're important to me, and my wife. I may think it's minutia, but my wife thinks it's important. So, I'll treat it respectfully.
Jo Dodds: I love that. There was an article on the web, a while ago. I've seen it flying around again, since. About the couple that got divorced, 'cause he didn't put the cups in the dishwasher, or something like that. The whole premise is, he didn't see the point, until after it all gone wrong. Actually, that one small thing, was making a massive difference in his relationship. It sounds like you've thought that one through, too.
Teddy Burriss: I'm not misleading you, to tell you I'm perfect. But, I do try. That's with 38 years. I'm not gonna screw this up.
Jo Dodds: Brilliant. You talked about Evernote. What are the tools, or apps, do you use in your business?
Teddy Burriss: Well, my primary apps are, I'm a Google Suite guy. It used to be called Google Apps, and it became a public realm of [inaudible 00:15:20]. It's called Gmail. But, I'm a Google Suite guy. I use the calendar, the contacts, email. I use groups. I have a YouTube channel on there. I use Google Docs. So, I [inaudible 00:15:36], spreadsheet, and lots of forms. So, Google Suites is my most, highly used business app, that I use today.
The second one's Evernote. Jo, I'm working on book number three. I've written two books in Evernote. I did all the writing, all the editing, in Evernote, then I pull it all together, and put it into a bigger word processing programme for formatting. So, I love my Evernote. I'm also a Slack guy. I'm just now starting to use Slack. You using Slack?
Jo Dodds: I am, yes. On and off. I've used it in certain places, and then, it's all gone a bit quiet. I've just joined a local one. Kent is the county I live in, in the U.K., Kent Marketers. So, that's [crosstalk 00:16:30] all enthusiastic again. So, yeah. I do like it. Perhaps, I do tend to be less than into anything that interrupts me. So, Slack can be a problem for me.
Teddy Burriss: You know, Jo, that's important. I'll tell you. In that context, the world of notifications, I would wager that you and I are similar, that we're connected to lots of different things. Lots of social footprints, email, YouTube, et cetera, et cetera. I turn off all notifications. My phone does not beep when I get a Facebook message, a tweet, or a LinkedIn message. My desktop does not go flashy when somebody sends me an email, or does something on social media. I turn it all off.
What I do is, I'm responsible to myself, to go to those different places, and look, and see what conversations are going on, that I need to get into. During the day, and I will intentionally go to Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, are my primary spot, and YouTube, and look and see what's out there, that I need to engage on. I'll do that two or three times a day, pretty intentionally.
Jo Dodds: Yep, yep. I agree. I'm much, the same. I don't even have my phone switched on, which is, perhaps, not such a good one. When you talk about the Google Suite ... I use that quite extensively, now. Did you decide to do that as a particular move, or has it, sort of, grown on you? The reason I ask that is, I have used Gmail, and the contacts, and the calendar for a long time. But, the actual Google Doc, I was, in the past, very much a Microsoft Office person.
I'm finding that I'm increasingly using Google Docs, and I'm increasingly getting frustrated with having to go and open documents on my computer, by waiting for it to fire up, and everything else. Whereas, the Google Docs are just there. I think, I was quite resistant to Google Docs, to begin with. But, I think I'm finding them so much more convenient. I'm transitioning. How did that go for you?
Teddy Burriss: It went well. I've spent almost 30 years in the IP world, highly connected to the entire Microsoft footprint. In 2010, when I started my business, I decided that I wanted to be more mobile. I also decided, I didn't wanna spend $400 for Microsoft Office, either, back in those days. So, I started teaching myself Google Apps, evaluating it, and getting comfortable with it. So, now, today, Jo, it's really cool. I have an old MacBook Pro in my office upstairs. I have a MacBook Air ... Not MacBook Air. MacBook that I carry with me. I have my iPhone, and I have an iPad. I can get ...
By the way, another important tool that I have is, Dropbox. Okay? Everything that I have, that I save, is saved in Dropbox. I can get to it from anywhere in the world, any of my devices. So, between Google Docs, and Dropbox, and Evernote, which I can get to from anywhere, I'm almost, what's the phrase? Device agnostic?
Jo Dodds: Yes.
Teddy Burriss: It doesn't make any difference what the device I'm on. I get to my entire office.
Jo Dodds: Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Teddy Burriss: It's really, pretty cool, to walk in the house at night. If I wanna go upstairs to do any work, I just leave my laptop in my bag, I walk upstairs, I turn my MacBook Pro on, and keep doing my stuff.
Jo Dodds: Yeah, yeah.
Teddy Burriss: One more really important thing about Google Docs, or Google Suite is that, I have business partners that I work with, including my wife, and another lady that does work for me. It's so easy to share documents, it's so easy to collaborate. Instead of forwarding a doc file, or spreadsheet, et cetera, et cetera, all I do is share it with them, then I engage with what Google calls, 'the collaborators.'
Jo Dodds: Yeah, yeah. Yep. Lovely. Yes. I agree with all of those tools. So, let's think outside of the work, a little bit. Think about things like keeping healthy. We've already talked about your exercising. What do you do to be healthy, to relax? When you're not working, what sort of things are you doing?
Teddy Burriss: I don't do a good job at that, Jo. I just publicly made that statement. But, it's real. I don't drink any sodas. I don't like that sugar intake. I'm a water, coffee, orange juice, beer guy. I know beer is the least of the useful [inaudible 00:21:35] drink. As far as food, I don't eat a lot of fried food, I don't go to any fast food restaurants. I need to eat better, fruits and vegetables. I know, I can improve that. But, I do applaud myself, in some regards, that I'm not doing all the bad things I could do.
Jo Dodds: Especially, going to coffee shops every day. You must be tempted by the lovely pastries, and things.
Teddy Burriss: Oh my God. Yeah. It can be overwhelming, but I'm pretty good at ignoring it. I've done a good job ignoring all that sugar. I don't put sugar in my coffee, I don't drink, what I call, 'frou-frou coffee'. I drink straight coffee.
Jo Dodds: Yeah, yeah. Agree.
Teddy Burriss: Relaxation's important.
Jo Dodds: Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Teddy Burriss: Sometimes, I relax with a bizarre movie, or shoot'em'up movie. Or, some type of drama, or action packed movie. Sometimes, I'll go out on the patio, and read a book. I read a lot of books, on my Kindle. I try not to read all business. I try to make it a mixture of, you know, business, social, and then, even, nonfiction, and satire.
Jo Dodds: Yep.
Teddy Burriss: I have another ritual, as well, that's a little unique. Which, I've been doing for about 15 years, now. I have a half acre lot, and I have to mow it. I have to mow pretty much all of it, 'cause there's very few trees on my lot. The way I mow my grass, Jo, is I have a riding mower. I will get, either, a coffee, or a water, or a beer. Here's another habit that I have, that most people don't approve of. I also smoke really good cigars, and I listen to Podcasts.
Jo Dodds: Yeah. Ah.
Teddy Burriss: I will get on my tractor, put my earbuds in, turn on a Podcast, light up a cigar, crack open a beer. You know how long it takes me to mow my grass, Jo?
Jo Dodds: It sounded, quite a long time.
Teddy Burriss: However long it takes to smoke the cigar.
Jo Dodds: Ah, yes. Brilliant. What sort of Podcasts do you listen to? Have you got any favourites?
Teddy Burriss: I do. [Iberglass?: 00:24:11]. This American Life.
Jo Dodds: Yep.
Teddy Burriss: Is one I listen to a lot. I listen to a lot of ... In the U.S. ... I don't know if you have NPR, over there?
Jo Dodds: Yeah. I listen to the TED Radio. That's NPR, isn't it?
Teddy Burriss: Yep. I like the TED Radio. That's a good one, as well. There's a few business ones I listen to, as well. There's one of some buddies of mine, there's one called the Beer Guys. I listen to that. I listen to Michael Hyatt. There's a very diverse list of Podcasts.
Jo Dodds: Yeah, me too. I keep shuffling mine around. When you get limited time, you sort of end up listening to the same ones, don't you? I try and sort of move them around, so that I don't do that all the time. So, what about learning and improving yourself? You talked about reading, you've talked about Podcasts. What sort of things do you do, to sort of move forward? You talked about how you reflect on that, each day, as well, to see if you've moved your business forward. I guess, you're constantly improving, and learning things. How do you do that?
Teddy Burriss: You know, Jo, there's a couple of different ways you can do that. One is, self study, find stuff you wanna read, an article. Read all the content that's relative to who you are, and what you do. You have blogs, social media, YouTube channels. But, there's a way more powerful way, that I love. I strive to make sure that I'm in a room of people who are way smarter than me.
Jo Dodds: Yeah.
Teddy Burriss: I'm a member of a couple different groups. I'm a member of a group called TCC, Try at Coaching Connexion. There's about 50 coaches across all areas of coaching. Life, career, business. You know, health coaches. Listen to their ideas, and philosophies, and learn from them. I'm also a member of ATD, Association of Talent Development.
Jo Dodds: Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Teddy Burriss: I hang out with talent developers, professionals, who know how to teach, and know how to share knowledge, and engage, or encourage. That's really rewarding for me, to learn from them. I'm also in a book club, with 25 other professional men. I get to listen to their ideas, their philosophies, and learn from them. So, my point is, there's lots of ways to learn. The most enjoyable for me, has been hanging out with smart people.
Jo Dodds: Yes. Yeah. Your book club. Is it business books, or is it fiction, as well?
Teddy Burriss: It's across all areas. It's phenomenally not business. We got stuck in some history, and reading a lot of historical books, about the wars in the U.S., and about the economy, and the U.S. change in the business environment. The book we just finished reading, which we're meeting with on Wednesday, and the author will be there.
Jo Dodds: Oh, wow.
Teddy Burriss: Is a book titled 'The Road to Devotion'.
Jo Dodds: Right.
Teddy Burriss: It's written by a gentleman, by the name of Cameron Kent, who is a local news anchor at our community.
Jo Dodds: Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Teddy Burriss: A good writer. It's a very interesting story about ... Oh, Lord. It just escaped me. Story about the Civil War, about the slaves, and slave owners.
Jo Dodds: Right.
Teddy Burriss: A story of a specific slave, who the slave owner, in time, realised she no longer wanted to be a slave owner, because of the ethical reasons of owning slaves. People. She helped the slave escape, because she no longer wanted to be a slave owner. The really interesting thing about this book group that I'm a part of, book club, is we read a very diverse set of books.
Jo Dodds: Yeah. It sounds like, Ted, this is definitely run by, all of you would've read it, by the time you get there, if the author's coming.
Teddy Burriss: Yeah. I did not wanna be there. The author's there, but I did not finish reading that book. I made sure I set aside time to do it.
Jo Dodds: Yeah, exactly. Exactly. So, tell us a bit more, then, about books, film, music, that you recommend for learning, or inspirational, or just enjoyment. Anything that you'd recommend, other than obviously, what you've shared, already?
Teddy Burriss: In regards to books?
Jo Dodds: Yeah. Or, films, or music.
Teddy Burriss: Oh. Well, in regards to books, I'm a leadership coach, Jo. I use that skillset to help me grow my business, to help others use social media. It's really an interesting dynamic to take my leadership skills, and apply them to the use of social media. I develop my leadership skills, by reading books by Ralph Waldo Emerson. He wrote a book called 'Self-Reliant'. He wrote a couple other really good books.
I've read books by Dale Carnegie, and actually studied Dale Carnegie. Two very powerful, life changing books. If you read them, completely and absorb the words of them, which is a challenging task, sometimes. But, Dale Carnegie wrote 'How to Win Friends & Influence People'. The second book that he wrote, that I really got significant value from, is 'How to Stop Worrying and Start Living'.
Jo Dodds: Hm. I've read the first. I've read the first, not the second. So, I'm gonna have to add that to my long list of books that I need to read, as a result of this Podcast.
Teddy Burriss: Yeah, yeah. But, I also read books by Derek Sivers, I've read books by Keith Ferrazzi, Mark Shapiro, and lots other people, with different ideas. The magic is to read, again, a broad spectrum of diverse books, and listen to what you hear from them, and figure out how you can apply what you heard, or read. How can you apply that to your life, and then your business?
Jo Dodds: Yeah.
Teddy Burriss: Now, as far as music, I'm not a big music ... I'm not a big fan. I'm not knee deep in music, and know all the artists, know all the songs, know all the genres. But, what I am, is this. Again, diversity. I can listen to Katy Perry, I can listen to Anya, I can listen to Meatloaf. Love the music, and the songs, written by Leonard Cohen. Again, very broad spectrum of music. It's just ...
Here's what's cool, for me, Jo. You never know when you're listening to a burst of a song, how it's gonna strike you, at that moment. What it's gonna make you think about. Diversity is what's all important to me.
Jo Dodds: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You talked about films, earlier. Sounds like that's pretty much the same, as well. A diverse range of different types of film.
Teddy Burriss: Yep, yep. I can go from a war movie, to a love movie. You know, I can go from a comedy, to a documentary.
Jo Dodds: Yeah, yeah. That's the same as me. I've also got an ... [crosstalk 00:31:54] Sorry, say that again.
Teddy Burriss: I was talking about some of these Netflix series. I've gotta get past this one series I'm watching, called 'The Arrow'. I'm not recommending it. I'm only telling you I'm watching it. You know, so I can get back to more diversity.
Jo Dodds: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Lovely. So, moving on towards the end of the interview. What about, if things don't go right? If you have a bad day, or you reflect back on your day, and things haven't gone so well. How do you deal with that?
Teddy Burriss: Here's an interesting idea. I've been doing it for a few years, Jo. First of all, Dale Carnegie’s principle, number one is, "Never criticise, condemn, or complain." I always think about that, when what's going on with me in life. "Never criticise, condemn, or complain." I also learn from another coach, friend of mine, to look at what's going on in your life. If it's not going the way you want it, don't get all welled up in the negativity. Think about how you can change it. How can you pivot? How can you look at it differently? How can you look at it in a positive way, instead of a negative way?
She would tell me pretty cool idea about, if it's not okay, how can you make it okay? If it's not okay, how can you change the way you react, or you respond? It's a skill, it's a talent, you develop. I think, I've gotten to a point where I'm pretty good at it. At least, based on the fact that my blood pressure's going down, in the last five years. So, I don't get upset about it. I just ask myself, "What can I do to make it better? What can I do to change it? What can I do to never do it again? How can I fix it?" Whatever the question is, in a positive way.
Jo Dodds: Yeah. I like that. I was listening to a Podcast today. It's a guy called Shawn Croxton, and he does a couple of Podcasts. The one that he's done recently, is called 'The Quote of the Day Show'. He's basically, he's partnered with one of the big publishers. I can't remember who, now. The [inaudible 00:34:17] of Personal Development staff. He plays a little snippet of speakers each day. Today, it was Jack Canfield. He was talking about, the whole piece about nobody makes you do or think anything. It's your own response to a situation, and that, you can choose to respond in a different way. Which, I think, is exactly what you're saying.
It's what I believe. It was interesting to hear that twice today, from him, one from you, just to remind me of the importance of it. It's certainly something I'm trying to instil in my daughter, 'little [inaudible 00:34:53] ears', I call her. It's about personal responsibility, and how you respond to things, not reacting to them.
Teddy Burriss: Yeah. I wish I would've learned this 30-something years ago, when I was raising children. That adult react, you must respond. The difference between react and respond is, respond gives you the ability to think.
Jo Dodds: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yep. I agree. Lovely. Last question, then. On a day, when you end the day, knowing you've had the chance to live more ... I define that as doing more of the stuff you want to do. So, not stuff you feel you should do, or you ought to do, or have to do, but stuff that you want to do. What would that day look like? What will you have done?
Teddy Burriss: I love it. So, Jo, my wife and I created this business that we call 'Fifty-Fifty Business', which means that we strive to give away fifty percent of our day, every day.
Jo Dodds: Oh.
Teddy Burriss: Which means, help as many people as we can help. That's why I volunteer at these jobs' search groups. But, if you want me to tell you what my perfect day looks like, in a beautiful picture of what I call my 'BHAG'. Big, Hairy, Audacious Goal. Then, what it is, is I'm in a 40 foot RV, that's a three-tow, and I'm towing behind it, my little Mini Cooper. I'm driving to a big town, and I'm gonna spend three days in that town.
Day number one, I'm gonna make really good money, doing what I do best, which is teaching people how to use LinkedIn, or how to use social media as a business tool. Day number two, is gonna be volunteering in church groups, and job search groups, and community organisations, who know who I am, and want me to come share my message, my ideas, or help people. Day number three, my wife and I, or one of our, currently, ten grandkids, are gonna tour that city, visit the communities, visit the restaurants, say hello to people. That's my 'BHAG'. Big, Hairy, Audacious Goal.
Jo Dodds: That sounds lovely. When are you planning for that to happen? 'Cause, it sounds very eminent.
Teddy Burriss: Well, it could be. It really is ... It's more a metaphorical goal. It is happening. It is slowly growing. I've been in business for six years. Every year, it gets a little better. Every year, I get a little closer to that kind of a lifestyle.
Jo Dodds: Yeah, yeah. Love it. Really, that's probably been one of the most ... Imaginative isn't the right word, but ... Evocative. Evocative days, so far. So, really appreciate you sharing that. So, how can people find out more about you, and connect with you? Where can we send them?
Teddy Burriss: Well, there's a couple places. First of all, they just go to Google. You guys have Google search over there?
Jo Dodds: Yes. [crosstalk 00:38:13]
Teddy Burriss: Is there another search engine you use? Or, is it primarily Google?
Jo Dodds: Some people use Bing, but it's mostly Google, yeah.
Teddy Burriss: Yeah. I tell people, just go to Google, and search for TL Burriss. Double R, I, double S. T-L-B-U-R-R-I-S-S. If you wanna go find me directly, find me at LinkedIn. It's Teddy Burriss. Double R, I, double S. I've got my YouTube channel, my blog, my Facebook page. Yeah. If you can't find Teddy Burriss, then I am failing miserably. Here's the cool thing. Once you find me on LinkedIn, Twitter, Google+, YouTube, wherever, send me a message, and say hi. Send me an invite to connect, or a LinkedIn, or Twitter, and say hello. I love to say hello to people who look for me, and find me, and want to connect with me.
Jo Dodds: Lovely. How did we meet, Teddy? I can't remember. Was it through LinkedIn?
Teddy Burriss: It may have been, in the earlier days, when we were practising our study. I knew it was important to reach out, and connect with my peers across the globe.
Jo Dodds: Yeah, yeah. It's great. It's so cool, isn't it, nowadays? You think back, 20, 30 years. My dad used to work intentionally. But, that involved flying to places, and I guess, telephones. It was a lot of extra effort that meant a lot of people weren't able to do that. You just think how easy it is for us, now, to connect, and speak, and share, and collaborate all around the world. It's so good. My friends are coming over, the weekend, from Australia. I'm speaking at an event with them. It's just so good to be able to connect across the world, isn't it?
Teddy Burriss: Mm-hmm (affirmative). It is. You know, you hear people on a regular basis say, "The world is getting smaller."
Jo Dodds: Yes.
Teddy Burriss: That's not true. Really, but our ability to reach is getting greater.
Jo Dodds: Yeah, yeah.
Teddy Burriss: The willingness. The willingness to reach out, and say hello, across the globe, is a powerful tool, and very rewarding, if you're willing to do it.
Jo Dodds: Yeah, yeah. Absolutely. So, thank you so much for joining me today, Teddy. I've really enjoyed speaking to you, and hearing about what you're doing over there. Let's keep in touch.
Teddy Burriss: Jo, thank you very much for inviting me. I appreciate it. We will talk again soon.

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I work with business owners and leaders to improve their wellbeing, in these days of overwhelm, whether that be physical, mental or digital, using my POWER to Live More 5 Fundamentals of Simplify, Systemise, Share, Self Care and Sustain. I also work with business leaders to help them to improve their organisational employee engagement and wellbeing. I believe they are interlinked in a lovely virtuous circle.